Do we contradict one another just for disagreeing purposes? NO. We contradict because we don’t feel the same way as the person we are talking to. So we end up expressing that, not always in the kindest way. This is probably most common in a couples relationship, or child to parent or parent to child.
I suppose we feel most comfortable, or fed up with people we are closest to and that is why we are comfortable contradicting what they say. We tend to be a bit more “polite” or “correct” or kind with friends and people we don’t know as well as family. Although we may disagree with a friend or acquaintance, we will usually keep that to our self because the action won’t repeat itself as often as it will in a home or between family members.
Contradicting is as real as two people’s personalities are different. One always feels like he/she is correct and the other person feels the same way. Sometimes contradicting what someone else says is done out of habit, too quickly. Other times it is the SAME OL STUFF surfacing again and again. “You aren’t listening to me” “You don’t respect me” “I don’t need your advise, I’m just venting” “Why do you insist on making me feel badly?”
When we feel like we have tried to express our feelings again and again and are not being heard, we begin to ignore the behavior and bite our lip until it builds up enough that we bust…albeit sarcastic or mean hearted, we do it because we are tired of expressing the same thoughts or feelings over and over again and not being heard.
Do you agree with me? Or would you like to contradict me?