I thought it appropriate to follow-up my previous post with praise to the parents of the girls I coached and to supportive parents everywhere. COACHES, TEACHERS and NANNY’S, LOVE SUPPORTIVE PARENTS.
In the 16 years I coached I can literally count on my (two) hands the problems I had with parents. That is pretty high praise and well deserved. The reason my cheerleaders were outstanding athletes and disciplined, FABULOUS cheerleaders is because I ran a tight organization and the parents didn’t get in my way. I tolerated no drama or excuses and parents may have not always agreed or liked my methods but they (for the most part) stayed out of my way and let me do my thing. I used running laps as a way to “remind” girls that they talked too much or behavior in any form that was unacceptable would be “rewarded” with laps. It WORKED. First year parents were extremely leery of me (as were their daughters) but once they got to know me they understood why I did what I did and how well it worked. They would see other high school girls mis-behaving or not in sink and would say, “oh wow, our girls are so good”! Other schools did not compare to “our” program and we were proud of it.
I can not emphasize enough to parents of young children how IMPORTANT it is to support your teachers, coaches and nannies. I include nannies because our daughter was a nanny for several years and the parents of the children she cared for were supportive of her and her methods.
It is the most difficult thing in the world to watch your children be reprimanded, punished, disciplined, get a bad grade, or made to wait…but it is SO GOOD FOR THEM TO LEARN CONSEQUENCES. Life if full of consequences and you can’t protect your kids forever. YOU JUST CAN’T. So instead of defending them (even if they are wrong)… PREPARE THEM. Unless it is abusive, let your teachers, coaches and nannies, do their thing. After all, they are the ones who work to get the results they need from your children.
In thanks and praise to all parents who stand back and let the coach, teacher, nanny do their job! THANKS FOR BEING THE BEST PARENTS OUT THERE.
quick funny story: the first year of coaching high school I was having the girls run like 8 laps (that’s 2 miles) for their unacceptable behavior at the previous Friday night football game. One of the older girls (Jr. or senior) stopped running and was saying she couldn’t breath. I kept after her because we all know teenagers have every excuse in the book and she kept stopping. She ended up calling her mom to come out there and I was thinking, Oh boy, her mom is going to let me have it. The girl was telling me she had asthma (an excuse I heard way too many times over the next 15 years) only true 15% of the time. Usually when they said their lungs hurt I would respond with ya, you are out of shape and your lungs burn when you run hard and are not used to it. However, when the mom arrived she confirmed that her daughter did in fact have asthma. Then she followed that with, “but she knows what to do, she has an inhaler. Running a few laps isn’t going to hurt her a bit”. BEST MOM EVER!
From that moment on, I knew there would be challenges but there would also be great support from parents who wanted what I wanted for their kids. To help them become great/responsible/ hard-working adults!